"Who's That Andre?", She's JUST A Friend Babes.

Howdy partners, hope you enjoyed your bank holiday? Well welcome to another edition of my infamous blogs. Would you like the good news or bad news 1st?... Well I'll give you the bad news 1st, this will be my last blog, no please don't break down, you're not a Punto, it's OK, all is not lost. It will be my last blog because I am going to be writing a book. So I need to take time out and cannon it together, so like a man who cant get it up, please bear with me.

Now to the topic at hand. Can men and women be platonic friends? hmmmmmmmm. Let me get my science hat on and dissect this matter.

Can A Man And Woman Be Platonic Friends?

The word platonic was brought about by a philosopher called Plato. Platonic is a emotion/feeling towards someone that is non-sexual, as in the person has no sexual desires towards that individual. Which in turn means one has no lustful thoughts for that person.

Lust according to the oxford dictionary is:
noun
[mass noun]

• strong sexual desire:he knew that his lust for her had returned
• [in singular] a passionate desire for something:a lust for power

verb

[no object]

• have strong sexual desire for someone:he really lusted after me in those days

Yes they can be platonic friends, they sure can. It is possible for two people not to lust after each other as long one deems the other party butters. The only way two people who are of the opposite sex can be platonic friends is if one of the parties has written the other person off in their head. For instance, a woman may find me attractive, she may think I'm the boom diggy but then she discovers I have two kids (Disclaimer: The only Bm's I deal with are German vehicles, 6's preferably) that may be a deal breaker for her, so therefore she can be my friend as she has no interest in me.

When your legs go up and make an ass of you, there is no way we can be friends. I will smash.

Now where the problem lies, is that I may fancy her and If that be so, the advice I give her as a 'friend' may be warped, for the fact that I like her. So any advice she requires about men I will make sure I get my square chicken on and cock block nicely. If I as a man fancy you, why am I going to lead you into the arms of another man, my name is not Dillon McSweeney.

It is an innate propensity that man and woman come together for mating purposes, it is natural for a man to fancy a woman and vice versa, it's society, morals and ethics that has got some people curbing these sexual desires. The sex urge is enough to ensure that man and woman meet for the reproduction of species. This instinct operated way before man experienced love, devotion and marital loyalty.

If you look at the female or male friends around you, the only reason why you probably are friends is because you don't deem them sexually attractive, they are a butters, they look like they are stuck in evolution, or look like a baboons bottom. It is innate for two people who are attracted to each other to want to mate. It is natural. The only reason why the two of them wouldn't is because of negating circumstances.

Ladies could you really just be platonic friends with a guy like this? Really.

A woman may find a man attractive but may not go there simply for the fact that he is broke or he is not on the same financial bracket as she is. So she refuses to unevenly yolk herself. However, the sexual attraction will still be present, so one can say she has him on layaway. Some would call it a di3k in a jar, just waiting to be cracked open.

I as a man can tell you this for free, I have some females in my life that I consider my friend, not associate, friend. There are some I wouldn't sleep with and the only reason I wouldn't is because I don't deem them attractive or they themselves have written me off. Either they don't think they could cope with me being their man or they know my thoughts on dating women with kids or they simply don't find me attractive. If two people find each other attractive there has to be a reason why they wont sleep with each other. If you're my friend and I find you attractive, just know that I will slip it in, if I was given the chance, YES I WOULD. Man would penetrate, I would put my magic wand inside your circus and begin performing tricks. Friends my ass, if I find you attractive and I don't deem you to be broken, as in damaged goods, I will pierce, the only empathy I hold are for women who are hurting, other than that,  I will sex you up, you better believe that. It's nothing long, in fact it is long, long like a ruler, just thought I'd straighten things out. Ladies I can tell you this for free, most, if not all the men around you who fancy you, would most likely slip it in, if you gave them the chance. Don't be fooled, if you're their type, they will press them keys, no locksmith.

I remember there was one time, I changed my relationship status on facebook to 'in a relationship', the way my inbox got battered. It was hilarious, couple girls were like "you're kidding right?". Girls who I assumed were just friends, were like "ermmmmmm whats going on ere?". Two girls deleted me, assuming it was true, so I guess they didn't want to see my face anymore. A lot of females will be nice to you, even help you with things, these things at times are in aid of trying to get you to like them. When a woman is helpful and puts herself out for me, I am grateful but in the back of my mind I'm thinking, hmmmmmmmmmm. Are you this helpful to everyone? Or is it because you want the ting? People are not generally nice for no reason, yes some folks are genuine but we live in a world of Mr and Mrs Intentional, HI Nato.

Want to learn a bit about Mr Intentional, click the video. 

There have been couple girls who I have had around me who have fallen back like Neyo's hairline when they realised I wasn't interested in them like the way they were in me.

There is one girl I know who fancies the pants off one guy but he made the mistake of telling her that he has hit a woman before, that automatically put him in the friends zone, he got relegated nicely, do you catch my drift? For two people to be friends there has to be something that works against them doing the dirty. For a woman to be a mans friend who she fancies, there has to be something blocking them from doing the ting. If not they will at some point plank on each other.

Get in there me old son.

There's Nothing Wrong In My Partners Best Friend Being Of The Opposite Sex?

You know your partners type, right? If he/she is your partners type it is in your best interest to severe that relationship, even if it's for your own peace of mind. You know me, I say it as it is. Yeah I'm dark skin but I have mixed race vision, I see things as black and white. The more you spend time with somebody, the more you become fond of them, all it takes is that one night and it's tick tick boom boom pow, he may strike his match on her box and 'lighter' up.. Attraction is attraction, you can't deny it. I know of women who have slept with their best friends man, yes I kid you not. From when she fancies your man, she might go there. It's attraction. I have slept with friends, friends in the past. When a girl finds you attractive, it will take a lot to curb her sexual desires. This "men and women can be friends" thing, is a myth as far as I am concerned. It only really works if both parties find each other unattractive, other than that, I am sorry it is a lie, a big fat juicy one. My girl will not be having a close male friend that looks like me. Hell to the udder tucking no, so when she needs someone to talk to, she can go to his house, put her head on his shoulders, then end up putting her legs over his shoulders, I'm OK thanks. I may be special but I am not special needs. I know what most men are like, sex is on the front, back and behind of their mind. In my hay days, I have been that crying shoulder. First you start patting her head, telling her it will be alright, then you start rubbing her shoulders which ends up turning into a massage, she then looks you in the eye and gives you puppy eyes and then boom boom pow she's riding my black eyed pod of peas. Not every women will fall for these antics but one has to be careful. Intimate situations may lead to intimacy.

This is a scene from the film 'The Best Man' where Taye Diggs and Nia Long are meant to be 'friends', click the link and see what happens.

Why You Vex Andre, I Only Gave Him My Pin, He's Not a Fraudster?

Giving a man your pin, is like locking your front door but leaving your windows open. Please don't fool yourself. Unless your exchanging contact details for business purposes, lets be serious. He has not taken your pin to be friends with you, lets not be naive. That's how some of you girls believe a man when he says he wont come inside you, then he arrives and parks his mandem in your chambers, now your eggs have to 'semen'. I come to you in the name of "Ram amandeep", unless it's for networking purposes as in business. He is not taking your number to be your friend and even if it is for business, if you are his type he will most likely want to slip it in. However a business man who puts money before women will seal the business deal 1st and then do the deed. Not every man is controlled by his penis. Some have learnt that you can't chase money and chase women at the same time, one will get away. There are women around me who I deem attractive but I wont sleep with them because I need them. I know if we sex, it may fark things up, now this is the other side of the matter. When money is involved some men who are serious about their cheddar have matured so they wont go there, they are greater than that. Once again there is something stopping them from doing the do. Unless it is for networking purposes under no circumstances should a man or woman be giving their pin or number out. And the way things are going with social networks, adding someone on twitter is just as bad. Some men are like a bureau de change they will convert your pin into a pound (beat). A good strike-her has the ability to convert from almost anything. Once the contact is made, it is made.

Why You Vex Lisa, It Was Just A Dance?

Just a dance? Hmmmmmm, just a dance yeah? Ok. I don't know about you but I don't dance with people that I deem to be unattractive, ermmmmm nope sorry. She can go and face the wall. If I ever caught my girl dancing with some dude in a club, I will tear off her eyebrow. I have seen women dismiss a man because he favoured Mark Morrison. Maybe in a Kizomba class or a Salsa class you may dance with someone you don't deem attractive but not in an 'Urban' rave. Nope I am sorry, how can you have a man and be allowing a next man to rub his wand on your bum? Let's be real. You might as well say you're having dry sex. You think I could walk into a place and see my missus skinning out to dumpa truck on someone she deems as her friend. Does she want to lose a breast?  I will call a dumper truck to come to the house and come and collect her stuff. Pause and ask yourself this, when was the last time you danced with someone you deemed unattractive? If you did, the situation was an anomaly or was out of pity.

It is foul play to allow another man to be scrubbing you when you have a man, P45's will be issued on site. The amount of times I have been out and I have been scrubbing a woman and then I discover she has a man, I'm like "what the fark?" How are you letting me do this to you and you have a man?

And lads lets be real, we do not approach girls to dance if we think they look precious *pun intended*.

Her and I could be friends no problem.

So What Are You Saying Dear.Rob? Are You Saying Men And Women Can't Be Platonic Friends? Say It Ain't So. 

With the definition of what a platonic friend is, yes they can be platonic friends as long as they do not find each other attractive and there are reasons why they have written that individual off. With men and women it differs. One of the main reasons why a man wouldn't bone a woman is because he needs her for business purposes. I know a few men who run businesses who have hot members of staff, they wont go there as they don't want it to interfere with their projects. I know men who are landlords who have hot tenants as friends, they wont sleep with them because they dont want them one day trying to default payment. Once one becomes familiar it often breeds contempt. Obviously there are men out there who are faithful so wouldnt sleep with a friend because of this, however if that girl put it on him, I don't know what the outcome would be. It's very hard for a man to refuse sex on a plate, very hard, many men have refused it but it will be extremely difficult if you find that woman attractive.

Even when it comes to giving advice in regards to helping a friend out, if I fancy you, I am not going to give you advice that will favour the guy that likes you, hell no. I will sabotage. That's why I always say that women should seek advice from men who are genuinely platonic and have your best interest at heart. If the said dude fancies you, his opinion will most likely be bias.

So if you want a yes or a no answer for; "can men and women be friends?" I will categorically say NO. As the mating instinct is the reason why male and female species come together. It is an innate propensity. If you are attracted to someone you can only curb it for so long.

Think of the hot friends you have around you, there are reasons why you haven't jumped them but that doesn't stop you having lustful thoughts. It only takes a glitch in the matrix, for a man to forget his morals and become a freeman.

Might I add, most of the sexual encounters that are acted upon happen in the work place, it's an easy excuse for one another to be talking. We all remember what happened with Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky. Lets just say she knew how to make the president stand to attention.

I never had sexual relations with that woman, I never made Monica moan in a car.

Oh and one of the best ways to let a friend know that you're not interested in them is by asking them for advice on other members of the opposite sex, that will soon put a nail in the coffin.

If you're looking for a man to complete you, you've missed the whole point.